Relationship

I am no expert in relationship but I am going to give a try in explaining to people (mostly guys) on what it is and what it is not.

Imagine you are buying a car. Advertising brings you into the showroom. You came because the car is attractive and has features that you like. You do not know if you can afford the car or if you like it but you are interested enough to go to the showroom. Like relationship, you get closer cause the women has features that you like. This by no means you are going to marry her or anything. I call this Step 1 - Advertising.

Once in the showroom, you get closer to the car and see her from the front, rear, kick her tyres and knock on some panel. If you are lucky, the door is open and you can see the dashboard, play with the steering wheel and seats (please no dirty thoughts here!). In relationship, you have to see her up close inside and out (inside her heart la - what were you thinking lar). I call this Step 2 - Suspecting

At this point, we may decide to not commit as the leather interior may not to our liking or the steering wheel does not feel right.

Sometimes, keys are available for you to test drive. This will be the final evaluation. You would check how she handles at corners, take a speed bump and do emergency brakes. See if you could live with it on a daily basis. If the suspension is harder than your liking or it handles not so well, you may not want to commit. I call this Step 3 - Prospecting

The last step is called - Sale\No Sale. This stage, you will decide if you want her or not. You have invested some time in all 3 step and because she is one-of-a-kind, you need to decide. Else other buyers are waiting. If you decide to commit, it the Step 4 - Sale stage. If not, it's Step 4 - No-Sale stage.

This process is true regardless if you are male or female looking for a car..errr...relationship. Unlike car, the person is also evaluating you and may decide to 'kick-your-butt'. There are casualties in every stage so fret not. Sometimes the car you buy is nice to look but hard to drive. Sometimes it depreciates fast. Sometimes you may want to modify it to enjoy it more.

So there you are, some thoughts from a guy who is still looking for his Porsche (the car la)